Trust

You can earn and lose trust, but you can never regain trust. Earning a person’s trust signals the start of a relationship while losing their trust often means the beginning of the end. You might think something leads to the breakdown of trust; however, one part of a relationship can often squander the other person’s trust based on suspicion alone. If you cheat on your significant other and do not tell them for several months, that is a legitimate breakdown in trust. If your significant other claims that you have cheated and you cannot convince them otherwise, you can blame their jealousy on your relationship’s downfall more than anything else can.

Many people try desperately to regain other people’s trust once it has vanished. Unfortunately, in most relationships, this pursuit will get you nowhere. The most stable, successful relationships might have some luck in re-establishing trust, depending on the circumstances. In the end, the same rule will always apply. You can never regain trust once it is lost, unless minor events lead to the breakdown in trust. The severity of these events depends entirely on your unique relationship. One relationship’s catastrophic event could serve as nothing more than a blip on the radar in another relationship.

A person’s capacity to forgive could always change the outcome and make the rule of trust obsolete. When we love someone, we have a tremendous capacity to forgive them, no matter what they might have done. To an outsider, this forgiveness might seem irrational or foolish because they do not understand the bond you share. You might even think it is foolish, but you go ahead with it anyway because love has a way of overpowering any negative thought we might have in this situation. This explains why husbands and wives return to situations we see as nightmares.

A person who is innocent of a crime should never have to own up to a crime they did not commit. The same goes for relationships. We often find ourselves in relationships with someone who has a tendency to become jealous. This jealousy convinces them you have done something wrong, even if you spend every waking moment with them and tell them everything. In this battle, you cannot win because your significant other has lost touch with what is really going on. If they sat back and analyzed your relationship honestly, they would realize you deserve more than suspicious and fabricated accusations.

When you find yourself in a relationship with a jealous individual, you need to address your concerns about how their feeling directly. You have to tell them you do not like how they accuse you of doing something wrong. You cannot bend to their will and shut yourself out from your friends and family because it makes them feel better. If they refuse to change, you should leave because you could spend your time better elsewhere. You and the person you are with might not like it, but you have to do what makes you happy when the person you are with stops making you happy.