Throw Out the Rules

Writers and commentators have attempted to define romance and tell you how you should operate within your relationship. They present theories, come up with scenarios and outline a list of rules in an effort to convince you that they know the answers and can help you have a perfect relationship. Many of us bite on this information and fool ourselves into thinking it applies directly to our relationships. Some of us even change our relationships around to ensure they follow the guidelines we read. Eventually, our relationships are no longer our relationships, but rather a creation of the writer that misled us.

If you want a successful a relationship, you need to steer clear from any book that claims to have all the answers about romance. The best advice does not come in a book; it comes from those that understand your relationship or knows you and your significant other. Strangers have no clue about you or your relationship. They will say whatever will sell the most copies, bring in the most viewers and get as many people to listen to their program as they possibly can. They might seem trustworthy, but their trustworthiness serves as part of an image a large corporation created to generate massive amounts of money.

Once you narrow your list of advisors down to people you know, you have to determine the intentions of the people around you. Your friends and family might not have your best interests in mind when it comes to the person you choose. They might let their personal opinions about your significant other cloud their judgment and motivate them to give you faulty advice. In some instances, the advice from a concerned loved one might have some merit. On the other hand, they could have built their advice on a foundation of premature judgments and erroneous secondhand information. The best advice comes from loved ones who want nothing more than to see you happy.

In the end, you should throw out every romance book you own. These books will provide you with entertaining gimmicks, not genuine material you should apply to your daily lives. After you have disposed of these bogus tomes, you should direct your attention to the people you know who try to give you advice. Evaluate their intentions and listen to those who want you to be happy. You should take every piece of advice they give you with a grain of salt though.

You will learn the rules for your relationship over time. Work out your problems with your significant other. Over time, you will develop an understanding of how your significant other thinks and feels. The amount of problems you will experience will decrease dramatically over time. Take your nose out of a book, close your computer and open your eyes. The solution will come to you without you having to look anywhere for it.